Roleplaying Redefined: 25 Unique Ideas for Intimate Adventures
If you're a regular reader, you'll know that we love introducing you to new and exciting ways to spice up your relationship. And one avenue of passion that can often get overlooked (whether due to stigma, fear, or just a lack of knowledge) is roleplay. One reason is that this type of fantasy play often lives in the realm of BDSM and kink—a place many couples are hesitant to explore. But as we've talked about before , roleplaying is nothing to fear! It can give you space to explore new ideas and help deepen your connection. When delving into roleplay for the first time (or on your 21st), it's important to keep certain dynamics in mind, as they shape the kinds of scenes and ideas that will bring you and your partner(s) the most pleasure.
Keep in mind that you don't need to be a BDSM expert to roleplay. Just think about the things you like and what your partner liked or expressed interest in. Are you interested in D/s (Dominance and Submission)? Other forms of power exchange? Language issues (i.e., degradation or praise, etc.)? All of this and more can help!
If your head is spinning, don't worry: I'll break it!
Things to think about for role-playing
It can be helpful to think about feelings, not just in convoluted terms—that is, how do you want to feel during the experience? Ask yourself questions to help spark imagination and conversation.
- Would I like to hear language and/or be referred to with words/names that make me feel naughty? Or would I prefer more romantic language? Praise, even?
- Do I want to direct most of the action or have my partner take over? Somewhere in between? Is the idea of switching mid-scene appealing?
- Would certain clothes, toys, and/or accessories help set the scene? Or would they distract?
- Which scenes from erotic books or adult films do I find most memorable? What specifically stands out? Would I enjoy recreating the scenes?
- Am I more attracted to realistic settings? Do I find fantasy settings exciting? Both?
- Do I have a safe word selected? How about a nonverbal gesture to stop the game?
We hope the questions above help get things going! As with any new and sexy experience, communication is key. Chat with your partner not only about desires but also boundaries to make sure everyone is on the same page. Another thing to remember? Don't take things too seriously. Roleplaying is supposed to be fun, so give yourself permission to slip up on a line or two, let go of your inhibitions, and fully embrace your role.
And on that note, let's get into the ideas.
13 Realistic Sex Role Play Ideas to Try:
These scenarios can add a sense of realism and excitement to your experiences, making them more relatable and engaging for both you and your partner.
Strangers in a bar:
Pretend to meet for the first time at a bar. Flirt and seduce each other before returning to a hotel or her home for a passionate encounter.
Boss and Secretary:
Create a scenario where one partner is the authoritarian boss and the other is the submissive secretary willing to do anything to please. Or turn it around and give the boss a secret submissive streak!
Exes reconnecting:
Play as former lovers who reunite years later, reminiscing about old times and rekindling the spark between them.
Fitness trainer and client:
Take on the roles of personal trainer and client, and the session will become a seductive workout.
Holiday Adventure:
Play the role of travelers who meet and have an exciting adventure while on vacation, knowing that it will end when they return home.
Neighbors (or roommates) with benefits:
Pretend to be neighbors (or roommates) who have always had a mutual attraction and finally act on it when the opportunity arises.
Special Delivery:
You've been waiting all day for a package, and just when you've lost all hope, it arrives. And so do you.
Meeting at the airport:
Play as strangers who meet at an airport bar and decide to join the mile high club on a whim.
Role reversal on the first date:
Switch things up! Have the traditionally dominant partner take on the submissive role while the other steps up to direct the action on a first date.
Historical figures:
Step into the shoes of historical figures and recreate scenes from the past with a twist. Not interested in real history per se? Give it the Bridgerton treatment!
Celebrity and fan:
Imagine a scenario where one partner is a celebrity and the other is a devoted fan eager to please their idol.
Detective and suspect:
Immerse yourself in a mystery role-playing game where one partner is the detective interrogating the other, who plays the suspect in a thrilling investigation.
Artistic muse and artist:
One partner plays the role of an artistic muse who inspires the other, who portrays an artist seeking creative inspiration.
Or maybe you're curious about scenes that are a little less… conventional.
12 Fantasy Sex Role-Play Ideas to Try:
These scenarios can add a sense of magic, mystery, and adventure to your role-playing experiences, allowing you to explore fantastical realms of desire…
Time Travelers:
Explore different time periods by playing time travelers who find themselves in various historical eras, combining fantasy with history.
Vampire and mortal:
Act like a vampire seducing his victim. Explore the sensual and dangerous allure of vampire myths.
Interstellar Lovers:
Travel to space as an explorer who discovers new planets and an alien life form curious about human sexuality.
Superhero and villain:
Play as a superhero and his arch-nemesis, engaging in a battle of wills that turns into a thrilling encounter.
Haunted house owner and ghost:
Play as the newest resident of a haunted house and a ghost determined to scare them away. Have the ghost try new, erotic ways to get creepy.
Fairy tale characters:
Pretend to be fairy tale characters (e.g., Cinderella and Prince Charming) exploring a different kind of happily ever after.
Forbidden romance:
Play as royals from opposing kingdoms as they meet in secret to fulfill their mutual desires.
God/Goddess and Mortal:
Play as a god/goddess and their mortal patron whom they reverentially please and worship.
Pirate and captive:
Take on the roles of pirate and captive, as the pirate plunders more than just treasure.
Robot and human:
Explore the dynamics of technology and humanity by playing roles as both a robot and a human, exploring themes of control and submission.
Spirit and Environment:
Take on the roles of a spirit seeking earthly pleasures and the medium who channels his desires into reality.
Romance of the magic school:
Enroll in a magical academy as students of the arcane arts, where spells and potions lead to enthralling enchantments.
In conclusion, remember that immersing yourself in role-playing can be an exciting journey of self-discovery and intimacy with your partner. Just keep those lines of communication open, set your boundaries, think about your roles, and consider starting with simple scenarios. These experiences have the potential to be truly unforgettable! So don't hold back!
Let your imagination run wild!