We're all familiar with the concept of the five love languages: the ways we show (and want to be shown) affection by our loved ones and partners. But in his book, Upgrade Your Sex Life , author Dr. Douglas Weiss discusses five other languages ​​that are less talked about but just as important. They're a little more... naughty, but have the same basic principles as the five love languages: How do we, as sexual beings, want to experience our intimate encounters? What intensifies our experience? What turns us on? What turns us on?

These are the five sexual languages.

1. Fun

Your pleasure arises when things get a little more creative in the bedroom... or outside of the bedroom! If you can't get enough of the novelty of sex here, there, or, well, almost everywhere, you might fall into the Fun category.

Fun is also about variety: different positions , different add-ons (hello, sex toys), and those different locations .

So let those spontaneous thoughts flow! Change things up a bit! Add something new and fun!

2. Desire

Do you want to be desired? Then your sex language may be based on desire. If you love the thrill of being pursued, of your partner showing you how much they want you, you probably love perfectly planned dates and personalized gifts and activities that show your partner not only cares about you, but yearns for you .

This is where communication becomes especially important. If your partner understands your desire to be desired, they'll be able to adapt their approach and court you to the fullest.

3. Pleasure

Do you want nothing more than to please your partner and be pleased in every way? Do you ask questions, watch videos , and research new positions and techniques to improve your performance in bed? Then your sex language is probably pleasure.

The language of pleasure is about experimenting to find new and exciting ways to enjoy time together and ensure your partner has the best time.

It's all about research, experimentation, and communication. If you're looking for pleasure, talk with your partner about what works best for them, you, and your respective bodies so you can enhance the experience for both of you.

4. Patience

For some of us, sex is more of a long relationship: slow rhythms and gentle caresses, pre-sex massages and post-sex cuddles. If this is your thing, then so is the fourth sex language: patience.

When it comes to patience, the best sex isn't spontaneous, but anticipated, because anticipation is the best part. And once it starts, it's about taking your time and experiencing the passion of the moment.

To maintain that experience, you need to find ways to keep it fresh. Sexting , massages, foreplay-focused toys, and sensory enhancers can all contribute to your play and help you change things up to keep it interesting.

5. Acceptance/Celebration

The final sexual language is acceptance/celebration. Those who fall into this category are probably not “casual hookups.” They probably aren't into one-night stands or “no-strings-attached” dates. They want to feel valued. Not just physically, not just sexually, but as a whole. As people. As half of a whole. They want to feel appreciated, to feel connected, in all aspects of sex.

Striking a position or doing an activity that isn't your favorite, but that you know your partner loves, is another way to show them how much you appreciate and accept them, along with their quirks, just as they are. Even something as simple as eye contact can help forge that connection they crave, letting them know that you're not doing this just for your own pleasure, but specifically for theirs.

Mix, match, and meet in the middle

Like love languages, none of these sexual languages ​​are mutually exclusive. You may be a mix of two or more of them, and they may even change depending on your mood. The important thing is to take the time to identify those preferences and patterns.

Recognizing your sexual language can help you not only better understand yourself and your desires, but also better understand your partner . If the two of you don't get along in bed, it can create an unstable relationship. Learning what motivates both of you can help you change and adapt your intimate activities to each other's preferred sexual language and increase both your satisfaction between the sheets and the health of your relationship.

Better communication, better relationships, and better sex.

Who could ask for more?

Credits: TREY ZINK