Sex Guide for Cancer Survivors

These basic guidelines will help you manage your sex life during and after cancer treatment.

It's a difficult topic to address, but we're going to do it: we're talking, of course, about the big C. If you or someone you know has been diagnosed with cancer, you know it affects every aspect of your life. And your sex life is no exception. While it may not be the first thing you think about after diagnosis, it's something that will surely come up during your fight. So, here are some tips to help you get your sex life back on track during and after cancer treatment.

Know that you are not alone.

Unfortunately, cancer affects the sex lives of many survivors and their partners. From erectile dysfunction to vaginal dryness or simple exhaustion from fighting the disease, the side effects can be far-reaching and unexpected. Understand that if you're experiencing sexual difficulties after a cancer diagnosis, it's not "just about you" but about what may happen as part of treatment. The effects can be short-term or long-term, so you may also need to find a "new normal" for your sex life. This can be daunting, so try to view it as an opportunity to branch out and try new things.

Love your new body.

Whether you're losing your hair from chemotherapy or dealing with surgical scars, cancer treatment isn't exactly designed to make you feel more attractive. And since the first step to great sex is feeling sexy, a negative self-image can stop your session before it even begins. To combat these feelings, focus on the positive. Think of three things about your body that you like and focus on them. These features don't have to be sexual; they can be something as simple (and silly) as the shape of your nose or the freckle next to your belly button. The important thing is to affirm the positive things about your body and remember that it's not the enemy; it's working with you to get through treatment!

Communicate with your partner.

It probably goes without saying that if you're in a relationship, it's essential to tell your partner your thoughts, feelings, desires, and fears. This applies to every aspect of your life, but it's especially true when it comes to your sex life. Try to be specific, but not accusatory, about what works, what doesn't, and what you'd like to try. And remember: communication is a two-way street, so be sure to listen to what your partner thinks about the topic, too.

Try new forms of intimacy.

After cancer treatment, what once turned you on in bed may no longer excite you. It's not the most comforting discovery you can make about your body, but unfortunately, it's true. You may need to do some exploring to find what feels good, and you may even need to rethink what intimacy means to you and your partner. Don't be afraid to experiment and try new things. You may discover a whole new side to your sexuality!

Armed with information, the right attitude, and the support of your partner, you'll be well on your way to regaining your sensuality!