Answers to your questions about squirting
Premature ejaculation is a hot topic. Many of you may have questions, and while we don't have all the answers yet, the medical and research community has some evidence seeking to understand this phenomenon, which sex educators have been discussing for quite some time. Below are some frequently asked questions for your viewing pleasure.
Q: What happens when someone ejaculates?
A: According to a study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine , some women report a discharge of fluid from the urethra. This phenomenon is also known as “squirting.” Researchers investigated this phenomenon in seven women, who reported a large release of fluid during sexual encounters. In the study, the participants voluntarily emptied their bladders (urinated) and then underwent pelvic ultrasounds before, during, and after sexual arousal. The results showed that before sexual arousal, the bladder was empty. During sexual arousal, just before squirting, there was evidence that the bladder was filling. After squirting, the participants' bladders were empty again.
Side note: Although this study is extremely useful in gaining insight into what happens during premature ejaculation, the sample size was very small. Often in the research community, large sample sizes are needed to prove that what is observed is actually true and not pure chance. In this study, only seven women were included, and that could be for a number of reasons. For example, if a woman (or someone with a vagina) ejaculates, she may not have wanted to participate in this type of study. Future studies that examine the body will help provide additional data on premature ejaculation.
Q: Am I leaking or peeing?
A: Evidence from the aforementioned study indicates that premature ejaculation is the result of an involuntary release of fluid from the bladder during sexual activity. In some cases, fluid is released from the Skene glands. The Skene glands produce and secrete fluid to help lubricate the opening of the urethra. The fluid aids lubrication during sexual activity, and a larger amount may be excreted during orgasm. This phenomenon is also known as "female ejaculation."
Q: Is squirting the same as ejaculation (“cumming”)?
A: Another study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine shows that squirting and what researchers call "female ejaculation" are two different experiences. This study indicates that squirting is the result of a huge amount of clear fluid being released from the urinary bladder. The results also show that female ejaculation is the result of a thick, whitish fluid coming from the Skene glands.
In essence, there is insufficient evidence to conclude whether the stream is urine from the bladder or fluid from the Skene glands. Some women may excrete a combination of these fluids. Others may excrete one or the other. Keep in mind that the Skene glands are located on the sides of the urethra. Therefore, determining where the fluid is coming from may be very difficult unless direct observation is made.
Q: Am I normal if I don't squirt or ejaculate during an orgasm?
A: Of course! Although some women (or people with vaginas) may release fluid during sexual arousal and orgasm, it all depends on the individual and their body. Fluid release is not typically part of a female orgasm. Orgasms involve an increased heart rate, rapid breathing, and muscle spasms throughout the body (often in the vagina, uterus, anus, and pelvic floor).
The bottom line is this: Whether you ejaculate or not, sexual activity is meant to be pleasurable. There's no need to feel embarrassed if your body expels fluid. If your body doesn't, don't feel like you're lacking something in that area.
Remember that premature ejaculation and ejaculation occur involuntarily due to various factors. If your goal is to have pleasurable sexual experiences, focus on learning and understanding what pleasure means to you. If you have a partner, talk to them about pleasure.